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THE NARCISSIST

Narcissist lack conscientiousness, empathy, and sentiment, people who possess these qualities have the fuel to feed the soul of the narcissist, he or she gains strength and breaks you down bit by bit, stealing your joy and happiness and here you will see the narcissist will begin to thrive. By Amy

THE TERROR THE NARCISSIST

If you haven’t met a narcissist yet good for you. But its good to know about the various signs of a narcissist so when or if you do meet one, run for your life and never look back. As far as I know, there are no proven facts or studies to this date that a narcissist can be cured.

What is a Narcissist?

The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder include a grandiose sense of importance, preoccupation with unlimited success, believe that one is special and unique, exploitative of others, lack empathy, arrogance, and jealousy of others. These symptoms cause significant distress in a person’s life. A narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of grandiosity (either in fantasy or actual behavior), an overwhelming need for admiration, and usually a complete lack of empathy toward others. People with this disorder often believe they are of primary importance in everybody’s life — and to anyone, they meet.

source: PsychCentral

You will be a victim of the narcissist and he/she will thrive on you. The narcissist will use you to gain the power to feed his soul. You can never win with a narcissist the trick is not to play at all.

Here are 5 things a Narcissist looks for in their victims:

1. Conscientiousness.

Perhaps one of the most overlooked qualities narcissists look for is the ability to be conscientious. Conscientious individuals are concerned about the welfare of others and they follow through on their obligations to others. Since they make decisions based on their conscience, they are likely to project their own sense of morality onto the narcissist and assume that the narcissist too will follow through. Narcissists know that when victims are conscientiousness enough to worry about the needs of others, they can exploit that quality to serve them.

2. Empathy.

The importance of having an empathic target cannot be underestimated. Narcissists do not get a good steady source of supply (praise, attention, resources, etc.) from anyone who lacks empathy. They themselves lack empathy, but their chosen targets often have a great deal of empathy. The emotional fuel that empathic individuals give the narcissist is necessary for them to feel in power and in control; otherwise, they essentially “starve” and go on the hunt for another source of supply.

3. Integrity.

A person who keeps their word is incredibly attractive to a morally impoverished narcissist. Individuals with integrity have a wealth of attributes that narcissists feel they can exploit for their own gain.

4. Resilience.

The ability to “bounce back” from abusive incidents is something that (counterintuitively enough) strengthens a victim’s bond with a narcissist.

5. A high degree of sentimentality.

A victim who is sentimental and loves deeply appeals to a narcissistic individual because he or she can use love-bombing (excessive flattery and praise used to groom a victim) to appeal to that person’s needs and desires with ease. As narcissists idealize their victims in the early stages of the relationship, they are able to secure their trust by appealing to their craving for love.